And for people unfamiliar with English folksongs about rotten men deserting nice women, same old, same old (!), here's that Early one Morning song I referred to yesterday.
I think I need to write a bread baking version though.
On the subject of male supremacy, I've been reading recently about another way to approach the patriarchy, rather than smashing it. Confrontation is dangerous, but quiet quitting is effective and starves the assumptions instead of fighting them.
I've been doing this for years, I realize. No leaping in to help a man feel better, or deflect his anger, and no stepping aside on the sidewalk so he doesn't have to. It's fine. Just let him deal with his own stuff. Not offering the extra step to save him the trouble. Not doing his emotional labor.Not taking the bait, just letting a silence happen. It's dignified and it works. Not right away, but over time. Reclaiming our time. I'm a woman and I endorse this message.
In another issue involving fighting the good fight, I found that ICE is using auto plate numbers to track and harass peaceful protesters, accessing State DMV files. Please if you're in the US, write immediately to your governor protesting, if your state is complicit, or supporting, if they aren't. I just did.
Happy day, everyone, especially e, and I'll be back later with Textiles and Tea. This post is getting a bit top heavy. Here's a bit of embroidery to tide you over!






I love that Mariame Kaba quote. A powerful truth.
ReplyDeleteI was happy to find that after weathering some criticism about being hopeful. It explained it for me.
DeleteHave a lovely day knitting socks, on the deck, enjoying the sunshine.
ReplyDeleteI like the idea of hope as a discipline, it gives me hope:)
It's how I've always seen it, and better expressed than I have been able to.
DeleteThis is an entirely different way of seeing hope.
ReplyDeleteIt's how I see it, not some floaty feeling!
DeleteGood post with excellent advice and wise thoughts. Per usual but I especially think the words about dealing with men is spot on.
ReplyDeleteI'm so earnest! But the men thing definitely works and keeps a person's blood pressure down.
DeleteHere in Canada, the folk song "Early One Morning" is absolutely synonymous with recorder music because it was the theme song for the children's TV program "The Friendly Giant" that all we Baby Boomers grew up with. In fact, when we learned recorder in school, that song was one of the first we learned because everyone already knew the tune! Of course, the lyrics weren't usually sung beyond the first verse so that it wasn't quite so obvious the song is about deception and betrayal.
ReplyDeleteWe used to get The Friendly Giant, Handsome Son loved it. Yes, the meaning isn't clear at that age. It's a nice playable melody.
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