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So, I left the car overnight, then waited till early afternoon to check.
Meanwhile I studied the orchid which after several months of bloom, is now dropping its blossoms. Then I pruned the main stem and moved it upstairs where it will be in good light with friends until it starts flowering again.
And I noticed I was stiff and achy from stress and not walking yesterday, so I did a 20 minute workout with April and Aiko, which helped a lot, also cheered me up a bit. A small bit.
And I sent a couple of very firm messages to Shaheen and Kaine, two of the little quislings who betrayed the Dems by voting to cave, about their treachery. This also helped my mood.
When I called the car dealership, they were working on the car right then, the part had arrived, the service manager all over me being nice.
I said we're not talking about charging me any more, then? Of course not, this isn't your fault, no, no, and I really apologize for yesterday, but now we're on it.
It looks as if my call to the manager paid off. But I really had had a lot of anxiety about maybe having another set-to when I picked it up. I agree that it was looking like a bit of bullying an old lady. But this old lady appears to have prevailed. I resent the emotional energy it took though.
Then I decided I'm old enough to please myself, and they were working late enough that it was going to end up with my having to drive home at dusk, not good, also I'd miss Textiles and Tea.
So when they called late afternoon to let me know the car was ready, I said nah, I'll get in tomorrow. Too bad if they want my car off their crowded premises, I thought. Neener, I thought! Then I started laughing at myself! Finally cheerfulness broke through.
But the convenience of the ride service was so cool, and Lyft has a new program where you can request a favorite driver, or at least a woman, which pleases me. There's also Uber available locally.
This has renewed my decision to get out of car ownership, either to Handsome Son or to sell it. I'm tired of the responsibility and I think age 87 is high time to leave driving to people who like it. Tomorrow HS is going to drive me in to the dealership to pick up, then come back here for a cup of tea and car talk.
Soooo, Liz 1, Honda,0. As of now.
And Textiles and Tea was a Welsh woman, Laura Thomas, whose Bridgend studio is next to Ewenny Pottery,the oldest working pottery in Wales. I wonder if blogista potter Gwyneth is familiar with it?
Laura, Eisteddford Gold Medal winner in 2024, does amazing weaving, exploring line and texture. Many of her pieces are threads encased in resin, amazing things. Most of her work is small, the largest we saw about 60" x30", and several works about 12" each way.
She's had a varied career, including designing for a traditional Welsh blanket mill, teaching, curating and exhibiting. Definitely check her website. I took some of these images from there.
The three images above show the whole work with a detail image
She's a fearless and brilliant artist, cheerful and so honest about her work and plans. I know our Welsh blogistas will be all, well, she's a Welshwoman, so of course!
Then I decided I needed a nice supper after all that, so this happened.
Shrimp boiled with lemon juice and salt, with brown rice cooked with butter and Old Bay, then a spritz of soy sauce on the plate. Spinach and scallion salad. Fast. Nice. Enough for tomorrow too
Happy day everyone. Stick up for yourself even if your voice shakes a bit! Sez Ted and Big Ursy












"I resent the emotional energy it took though."
ReplyDeleteToo bad you can't charge the dealership for that.
Emotional suffering $2.3M!
DeleteWell done for being decisive about your car. And for future driving. I gave up last year because I didn't feel comfortable or safe anymore. Husband chauffeurs me about now, and when that's no longer possible, it will have to be taxis.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a chauffeur, so it's ride services for me.
DeleteI had to read the post before to understand what was going on.
ReplyDeleteLet me say. That as owners of a mechanic repair business we have never, or would ever, charge a customer for something we did.
I can’t believe they even thought to do it. Unprofessional at the very least. I bet they didn’t know how to access the area they needed and broke the part to make it easier. And not wanting to let their bosses know . They probably would have to pay for the part themselves.
I’m so glad you didn’t just take it. Women are always being treated like we are idiots and they can pull anything over us.
I suspect the mechanic broke the part already, then they called to say they would need to do it, covering him! But I'm glad you're validating my indignation over even being asked to pay for it. That service clerk didn't know me!
DeleteWell done with the car!
ReplyDeleteYes, I do know Ewenny Pottery..and Catrin Jenkins ( if I remember her name correctly) is the ninth generation of potters there.
I had looked them up while I was writing the post and there she is! I had a feeling you might know her, being wired into the clay world.
DeleteDave and I often talk about how happy we are to no longer be dealing with cars. So I completely approve of your decision to get out of the car ownership racket!
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely a racket! If I sell I can use the proceeds for ride services. Or if it goes to Handsome Son, he won't mind the occasional request.
DeleteThe end of the day was superior to the beginning, so that was a positive.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely!
DeleteI am not there yet but sometimes contemplate life without a car.
ReplyDeleteThey're such a burden, compared to the convenience. I don't blame you.
DeleteI plan on giving up driving about then too if not sooner, but I won't be able to live in the remote area I do live in.
ReplyDeleteI -- we did find a place that has public transport within two blocks and Uber and Lyft too along with grocery deliveries.
Good for you!
No public transportation here, thanks to the auto folks long ago driving (!) out the rail and bus options, and Eisenhower beefing up the highway system. But I have medication and grocery delivery, plus uber and Lyft, also friends, so it could be worse.
DeleteWe will have to move to town when we can no longer drive. There are no options for ride services in Lloyd. Or Monticello for that matter.
ReplyDeleteIt might really ease your mind to let go of car ownership. You'll make the right decision for you.
Yes, peace of mind is a big deal at this stage.
DeleteI'm glad that you prevailed, but you're right, it shouldn't have taken up so much of your mental energy. I've never thought about that before, but that is a large part of the annoyance I feel when I have to deal with bad or incompetent service.
ReplyDeleteI didn't realize you were 87. It's hard to give up driving, another loss as we age. I've thought about what I'll do when the time comes for me to give up driving, I know I will be cranky:)
I'm a few weeks from 87, so I count it as done. I often don't realize it myself.
DeleteI've been relying on taxis for the past couple of months while my eyes heal from cataracts surgery and I can't drive. It IS nice to be ferried about! Even once I'm back driving again, I will still rely on taxis when going somewhere at night or when nearby parking is unavailable.
ReplyDeleteMy parents were worried about giving up their car when the time came. But you know, the cost of owning and running a car -- the insurance, maintenance and upkeep, cost of gas, etc -- pays for an awful lot of taxi rides! It wasn't a problem at all.
So nice to have someone else navigate traffic and detours! This time of year road repairs everywhere. I was thinking about evenings, too, haven't gone out then for ages, largely because of parking, driving home tired, etc.
DeleteI've been living inside of a car saga too! I bought a new-to-me vehicle in September, but it's spent more time at the dealership than with me. The initial problem was covered by warranty (and the following problems they created during the "repair"), and they've provided a loaner. But I'd like to be paid for my time driving back-and-forth to the dealership (4 round-trips, so far) and for all the aggravating phone calls (during which I hear their excuses), plus pain and suffering! Ha, I'm *mostly* kidding... Ah well, living life comes with problems. And being alive beats the alternative! I admire your plan to give up driving. Sounds great. I just found out about being able to request women and nonbinary drivers with Lyft, due to people on Spoutible writing about a lawsuit attempting to end it. I immediately went into my app and selected that option!
ReplyDeleteIt's a new Lyft policy, so I hope they won't be bullied out of it. I like the option. Sorry you too have a car saga, it never ends. The excuses make me angry, too.
DeleteOh, I didn't realize it's a new Lyft policy! Well, it's a great one. You know, it really is the excuses that bother me. I mean, the job the dealership didn't do correctly the first time isn't ideal. But I can get over nearly anything when someone takes ownership and apologizes. Excuses are what make me see red!
DeleteLyft has instituted a favorite driver choice, so even if the other option gets deleted, you should still be able to do that. My Lyft driver is a black woman, excellent driver, nice woman, and I'd pick her! She's also most at risk from %&$&% DEIA attacks.
DeleteAh, this is also good to know!
DeleteI'm glad you spoke up for yourself and it worked! Good for you!
ReplyDeleteYou helped stiffen my resolve, so thank you!
DeleteGood for you. I was absent yesterday but I get the gist. I think letting the car go is not a bad idea. You have access to transportation so why maintain the expensive of a car.
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely ready to let it go.
DeleteWhat an energy drain! I am so glad you asserted your rights and got the treatment you deserved from the start. I keep paying monthly insurance on the car, which I drive almost daily...but am avoiding night driving.
ReplyDeleteI've been looking at the cost in light of how much I drive. In a state with the highest auto insurance in the nation. Even with discounts for senior, accident free, one driver, bundled with HO, it's still pricey. I won't miss that.
Deletetotally applaud the car decision. I resolved to stop driving at 60 (rely on cycling etc to maintain fitness) and actually stopped when I moved to Piraeus aged 56. I had 6 years of not driving and didn't miss it at all but made the silly mistake of moving to rural new zealand and the need to make a once week 70 mile round trip for supplies in a country that doesn't value public transport (we have none out here).
ReplyDeleteSounds like no deliveries either! That's remote.
DeleteWhere I live, while it is not impossible to be without a car, it is very difficult. When we move I do hope that I can walk to a few more things but will still require a car. My Dad still drives at 86 and will be bereft when he can no longer.
ReplyDeleteThat's difficult. I wonder if he's eligible for any paratransit?
DeleteI think you have made the right decision about driving, and it's better that you made it yourself. As well as the aforesaid options, have a look at what local authorities might offer to its seniors.
ReplyDeleteLocal authorities have nothing at all for seniors. No transportation, unless disabled, for medical visits. I've researched this fully. I've been on a wait-list for transportation done by noncounty volunteers for over two years. My township has nothing. They expect seniors to move into assisted living with its own paratransit vans.
DeleteGood job on the car situation!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteYou handled that ridiculous car situation beautifully.
ReplyDeleteI was pretty wobbly under the bravado, but we got through it.
DeleteGlad your manager conversation set things to right!
ReplyDeleteBut I do agree that cars are a huge expense one could do without if one can. Absolutely! Good for you!
I think it's going to be interesting and I'm hoping less stressful.
DeleteTwo 'good for you's' - good for advocating for yourself AND good that you've found an alternative means to get around and so can get rid of the car. I know it's caused you angst over the past while and I strongly suspect that using something like Lyft will end up costing less overall.
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling that the price I get will cover quite a few rides.
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