Tuesday's physical therapy session, now near the end of our series, moved me far ahead. Squats, wall sitting, diagonal hip moves, trick to put on ankle weights safely. Just a long way from a few weeks ago. I'm very encouraged and feel more competent.
PT's mother is my age mate, and he wishes she would buy into getting stronger. I think it's largely about self image. If you see yourself as a person who can, too, lift weights and keep progressing, it's easier to go ahead, no matter your age. If you see yourself as a weekly swimmer, nearing the end of your days, ticking over, different picture.
Sometimes I believe we can give great support to another person's self image without even knowing it. Two examples from the Great Me. One was long ago when I quit smoking, after being a heavy smoker for decades. I suddenly had a compelling motive, child's health, and acted on it. Stubbed out the cigarette I'd lit, tossed the pack, never smoked again.
Weeks later, working in a office full of smokers, people smoked at their desks then, I was barely clinging on, such withdrawal. My boss, puffing away, said "You never went back to it, did you?" I realized she now considered me a nonsmoker. So it gave me permission to do the same. That kept me going.
Another colleague commented, unknown to me, when I was under pressure to "settle to one job" instead of changing fields every few years, that "she's a person who reinvents herself".
I heard this many years later from the mutual acqaintance she'd said it to. That was exactly what I did, and wanted, but I hadn't had any outside support for the concept, until I heard that by chance.
So that's my thinking. I believe a brief acknowledgement can go a long way to improve someone's life. Worth considering.
Today's Textiles and Tea guest was Jean Pierre Larochette, third family generation weaver in the Aubusson tradition of tapestry. If you've seen the Unicorn tapestries in the New York Cloisters or the Cluny Museum in Paris, you've seen Aubusson style, worked from the back and across the design.
Today's tapestries are usually worked from the front, though the design can be worked side to side.
Along with his wife, designer Jael Lurie, and daughter Yadin Larochette, he has created amazing tapestries over 60 years, now in churches, temples, museums and libraries, and a classic book on the art of tapestry.
It's a collection of knowledge and tradition in the art, a kind of encyclopedic approach.
Now to admire the works, some of many. These were mostly commissioned pieces, sixty years of word of mouth -- he's never had to write a proposal!
I’ve had a few of those people in my life who inadvertently helped me see myself in a different way. I’ll always be grateful. The weavings are stunners.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you've had those people. They balance out the negatives we all get, sometimes for the same qualities.
DeleteThose tapestries are transcendent art indeed.
ReplyDeleteAren't they great? I'd love to experience them in person.
DeleteSeeing ourselves through another’s eyes can be an awakening for us. We need the self awareness to realize it! You did, Boud!
ReplyDeleteWe tend to notice a lot of negative reactions, so it's good to remember positive ones happen, too.
DeleteOther people's opinions of us can be quite illuminating.
ReplyDeleteIn several ways.
DeleteFor some reason it always seems easier to believe and accept the negative self visions of myself than to see myself in another light. Funny. I just wrote about this on John Gray's blog.
ReplyDeleteYes, we seem to be hard wired to spot criticism more than compliments. I wonder if it's a primitive safety first response.
DeleteIt's always affirming to have someone appreciate us, although it seems to be human nature to brush such appreciation off as not being deserved.
ReplyDeleteThe weavings are stunning. It's hard to believe they are tapestries and not paintings.
I'm always surprised at compliments! Those tapestries are beautiful, mostly 12 threads to the inch, so they're fine enough for detail.
DeleteIn recent years I've had things said which made me see myself in a different way. Not bad things but revealing. Your energy and resilience do inspire me, truly!
ReplyDeleteWe tend to have narrow views of ourselves and hearing s different interpretation can be really helpful.
DeleteI try to get out for a walk everyday but I don't use my weights much. Now you are making me think about that...
ReplyDeleteJust five minutes twice a week..to get back into it.
DeleteIt’s almost never too late to make modest improvements. I have managed to lose weight although it is supposedly not easy for those of my age group.
ReplyDeleteTrue, and if it's important to lose, good for you.
DeleteWhat great news repeated from your accomplishments...to stop smoking before it became a thing, to try new things and eventually hear about it! And thanks for the beautiful tapestries. They all are astounding!
ReplyDeleteThey were significant comments, so powerful. I thought you'd love the tapestries.
DeleteThat must have been very empowering to realize that others saw you as someone capable of reinvention. Those tapestries are spectacular. No wonder they appear in great places, public places, grand places. They deserve to be shared and widely appreciated.
ReplyDeleteThe tapestries are recognized as they should be, also the artists who create them. It's good.
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