Sunday, August 31, 2025

Organizing, new life on old, emotional support chicken

Saturday morning I cleared out another cabinet, disposed of many useless small bags, found tinfoil, and, best of all, I found all my hand tools at the back of the dark shelf. I'd been wondering where they went. 

Then I went for a different walk, I always like to walk a circuit, not retrace my steps, and on the way around, found this dead tree which has become a host for many lichens, flourishing and growing 


After lunch I had an unscheduled nap while listening to Meghan O'Rourke's The Invisible Kingdom, a wonderful book, read by the author, about chronic illness and her search for understanding and health in a medical environment which produces indifference and little help.

Then I remembered the yes2next August challenge and did this routine, lower back stretches 



These are floor or bed stretches, depending on your ability to get up from the floor. They're familiar to most of us.


Later I looked out and saw a young woman sitting on the grass with -- a chicken. It pecked around the grass and she stroked it, well, she stroked her, I suppose chickens being female. I wonder if this was a sighting of an emotional support chicken. Pretty trendy. It was a peaceful scene, the chicken quite calm around her while she was reading.

I didn't want to intrude by getting closer,  but here's the gist, chicken on the left facing her  


Then a few minutes later, this little flock appeared, pecking busily, until they were rounded up by the same woman.  They're small and very pretty.



Maybe weekend visitors.


I've been thinking about my deceased friend H. She was one of the most self sufficient people I ever knew. She grew up in the country, hunting, rearing chickens, growing vegetables, had her own driveway stand of eggs and produce at age twelve. 

She could do just about anything. Rewired her own townhouse to get cable on every floor, as promised but not delivered by the builders. She cleaned the dryer vent and the chimney, and had a wood fire going all winter, wood she'd split and hauled. Installed her own ceiling fans. She fished for the table, and was a good golfer. 

When the appliance people delivered but failed to install my dishwasher, she did it for me. When the thermostat went weird and the professional heating guy couldn't fix it, she came over and put it right in seconds. Just took it off the wall, blew a lot of cat hair out of it, it's worked perfectly ever since.

We had a lot of jokes together, including a scandalous imaginary development newsletter. I'll miss the color she brought me. I could tell when her husband and son were driving her mad, because she'd march in, unannounced,  with Abbie the little dog, and tell me "put the kettle on quick."  I think I helped avert a husbandandsonicide more than once over those cups of tea.

Happy day everyone, it's good to dwell on the good stuff sometimes. And there's always good stuff. Sometimes hard to find, sez 

Ted and Big Ursy 





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  1. It sounds like Friend H was a most wonderful person. How lovely that she was in your life and you hers.

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  2. Chickens as pets? Well, they are domesticated.

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  3. Your friend sounds astonishing! Lovely memories

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  4. Friend H...the best sort of good mate to have.

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  5. What a friend and what memories. Wonderful. I want an emotional support chicken.

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    1. I'm starting to need an emotional support chicken myself.

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  6. Your late friend sounds like quite a person. Why do I think she became late way to early.

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    1. Any age would have been too soon for such an interesting person.

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  7. Sweet memories and laughter with them.

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  8. When we are told after a dear friend or loved one dies that we should remember the good times, the good things as if it will cheer us up, I think it only serves to make us sadder. I am not sure why this is the case but of course it is. I suppose we are mourning the loss of that light in our lives.
    As to support chickens- I can tell you that when my (now deceased) friend Kathleen brought me chickens to tend when I was struggling to emerge from a very dark place, she gave me the greatest remedy she could have. Those funny, smart, fascinating birds soothed me and pulled me up out of myself. I felt as if a piece of me that had been missing was returned.

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    1. I feel so much better remembering the high jinks we got each other into. I guess it's very personal.
      I know you love chickens, you'd be delighted with this little flock.

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  9. Love chickens! I can picture them as support animals.
    Your dear H sounds like a wonderful friend to you...as you were to her. I had a dearest friend, Ruby, I still miss very much. She is still treasured. :)

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    1. Yes, we're both lucky to have had such a friend.

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  10. I guess that person with the chickens must travel with them? Which is kind of amazing. I'd be afraid a dog or coyote or something would streak in and grab one.

    It's kind of nice when memories of lost friends (or pets) come back around. It's a reconnection, and even if painful it's important to keep those memories alive.

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    1. We have foxes and red tails, dangerous to little chickens. More chicken info upcoming.
      There are plenty of funny and sad memories about H, which I expect will surface at unexpected times.

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  11. Lovely tribute to your friend and good that you are thinking about the good times with her and about her.
    Chickens are surprisingly pet-worthy. When I was a kid I had a pair of banties and they followed me around pretty much everywhere. My mother had 'regular' chickens all the time but the banties were special and definitely were pets.

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    1. These are small, and I've been wondering if they're bantams. Smaller than the usual barnyard chicken that my mother kept.

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    2. hah - good on you! My pets were correctly bantams but I called them banties and had, over the years, morphed by pet name into being right.

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  12. She sounds like a wonderful friend, as you were to her.

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    1. We had some good times as well as sad times.

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  13. I'm glad you have happy memories of your friend to comfort you.

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    1. There are sad ones, too, over so many years, but so many hilarious ones, too.

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  14. She sounds like an amazing woman, one I would have loved to have known. I especially love that she came to you, to talk her off the path of patricide. My advice to women who feel like this, put down a tarp:)

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    1. She'd have hit it off with you, too! You have similar grit and unflinchingness.

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  15. Your friend sounds amazing and it sounds like she loved you as a friend too. I always told myself that if we lived in the country, the first thing I would is get chickens. Always enjoyed them on those rare occasions seen. Being a teddy bear lover, I love to see Ted and Big Ursy too.

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    1. Maybe one day you'll have chickens. You never know. I've lost a thick and thin friend, yes.

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  16. Losing someone you love causes so much pain. No matter how long they have been gone. Sometimes something happens and your memories come flood back. And no matter how long they have been gone the pain is the same.
    It’s wonderful that you have so many good memories. One day you’ll remember and you will smile thinking of them.

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    1. Yes, I have a rich store of memories. It's not easy losing a good friend.

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  17. I told my wife about H and said she sounded like her. She poo-pooed that at first but then said "I had a Mr. Fixit for a father."

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    1. If your wife is like H you'll never have a dull moment.

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  18. Losing a loved one can take a long time to get through the feelings of grief.
    I was fascinating by your mention of an emotional support chicken. People may call me crazy, but I think any animal can be an emotional support. Hospitals and seniors residences these days realize this and allow a cat, dog or rabbit to come into the facility to be petted by the residents and patients. Stroking/petting an animal can help to lower blood pressure and heart rate. It is definitely a source of comfort. So it doesn't surprise me that a chicken can do the same for someone.

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    1. True about animals. Children used to have white mice which they could carry, and hide in a pocket. I think they were often support animals.

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  19. You have great memories of your friend H. She sounds wonderful and will live on in those great memories.

    I hadn’t heard of an emotional support chicken. Interesting.

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    1. As Linda says, any animal! Birds are so warm and soft that they're comforting.

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  20. Good friends and neighbours like that are hard to find. In our youth, we had a very helpful neighbour-friend.

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    1. I've been very lucky. I've had a succession of wonderful neighbor friends. All gone now.

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  21. Your H was (ugh! such a FINAL word) a pistol! I can see why you two hit it off so well. Thanks for sharing a bit about her. Husbandandsonicide prevention by teakettle! She ran the gamut from subsistence skills to wiring and cabling! Would love to hear more stories as they surface and you feel like sharing.

    I agree that those look like banties. They have the same amount of personality as big chickens, packed into a smaller package. Looking forward to hearing more about them.

    Walks help. Lovely dead tree, growing new life. You're keeping up with your exercise challenge (I'm not! Will re-start tomorrow)! I will look for "The Invisible Kingdom". Congratulations on finding your hand tools! And so life goes on.
    Chris from Boise

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    1. Yes, as I remember more of H's exploits, I'll talk about them. I'm tired today, probably emotional tiredness.
      Yesterday's gardening took the place of everything, so strenuous and continuous.

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  22. I love chooks and they don't do a lot of harm but roosters can be noisy and disturbing (not as disturbing as peacocks however - have you heard them scream in the night? Almost human sounding.)

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    1. I'm betting the racket of roosters is the problem. I love the sound, it's nostalgia and childhood and long moorland days.

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